EVERY STEP COUNTS: 18/05/17 – How has being authentic worked out for you this week?

Have you noticed authentic people and businesses in this last week?

Have you seen any unauthentic people and businesses since reading the article last week?

When you become aware of the nature of authenticity, it’s surprising how your outlook on things changes so much. In the last week, Myself, Matt Howe and Mark Douglas setup the newly formed Wokingham and Emmbrook Boxing Club. When you start out with a new venture if you are not authentic and not genuine with your reasons for doing something, then it is blatantly obvious. Stay true and others will follow.

We have received an unbelievable amount of support from local people and local businesses in the last week and we now know the club will be a huge success that will benefit the current population and also many generations to come. I believe that this successful start is all down to being genuine and doing it for the right reasons and that everyone agrees that this project is a game changer for the area and there will be so many positive outcomes that will arise from it.

Anyway, enough about what is giving me the buzz of my life at the moment and onto this week’s column. I asked a few people over the last week about what they would like covered and an area that came up was all about backing up what you say you are going to do.

How often you hear the following statements:

“I am going to run every day for the next month.”

“I am going to lose a stone by my holiday in the summer.”

“I can’t wait to start this new exercise class; I am going to go every day of every week for the next month.”

Statements like the above are great as they are positive and potentially life changing but do they always work out the way we plan. I am a big believer in talking the talk but then backing it up by walking the walk too. Take a few personal moments from my life for example that have happened over the last few years. I said some things and stated some objectives and I made sure I completed them:

  • I am going to join the Royal Marines and serve my country.
  • I am going to be self-employed to spend more time with my family and have a great life.
  • I want my own training unit where I can change lives daily.
  • We want to set up a “Not for Profit Boxing Club” for the community and give the area something back that can be enjoyed by children and adults all over Wokingham and surrounding areas.

I made those statements but I also walked the walk, I made sure I completed them as they mean so much to me. When something is important to you, you get it done whether it takes an hour, a day, a week or a month, you just get it done.

So, what strategies can you use to make sure you walk the walk and back up the talk? Check out the list below and try adopting some of the strategies to help you succeed:

  • Picture the benefits of following through and the liabilities of not. It always feels great completing a task so visualise how that will feel. Visions Boards work really well for this so please get in contact if you would like help with setting one up correctly.
  • Follow the theory of Rectitude. This is all about morally correct behaviour and righteousness. Most of us want to complete things, reminding yourself that following through with a task or a promise will likely motivate you also.
  • A favourite of the FUNdaMENTAL coach this one…get comfortable being uncomfortable. Change is hard and you always have to sacrifice something, it’s just the way it is. Focus on the long term gain over the short term pain.
  • Invoke familial guilt. This basically means that you picture how you would feel if you didn’t complete the task and how it would feel to tell your loved ones and closest friends that you didn’t do something that you promised you would do. How would that feel? Picture that and use it to motivate you to succeed and walk the walk.
  • Finally, use what I like to call the Thermometer method. If a charity wants to raise, say £20000 which is what we are trying to raise for the Boxing Club, they may put a thermometer on a sign with the numbers 2500, 5000, 7500, 10000, 12500, 15000, 17500 and finally £20000 along the side, and each time they reach a milestone, colour in that part of the thermometer. Similarly, break down your latest project into easy-to-accomplish milestones and put those on a thermometer you’d keep on your desk or anywhere else you’d see it all the time. When you’ve completed a milestone, colour it in. We all enjoy crossing things off our to-do list. Colouring-in your thermometer is a more visible and perhaps more pleasurable way to do that. This is similar to habit chains and I will touch on this more next week as they are important to the way I work and a lot of the people I work with too.

Most people will talk the talk; few people will walk the walk, be one of a few.

People with good intentions make promises but people with good character keep them.

A person’s actions will tell you everything you need to know about them.

This week I ask you to work on your “walk the walk” skills….do it and see how you feel.

Happy Thursday everyone, I hope to see lots of you walking around the area this week J

Are you walking the walk???